Staying safe
As with any walk of life, some people on online dating sites don't have your best intentions at heart. We try hard to eliminate these members as soon as we see them but you should be on your guard too. Just a few basic measures will make sure you're not taken advantage of. If you do notice anything suspicious please report it to us so we can act to protect the rest of our members. This page isn't meant to scare you off but merely give you a few things to think about. The vast majority is common sense but sometimes we all need reminding. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart, we can all too easily forget reason and get taken advantage of. If you are suspicious or unsure of anyone then just back off and trust your instincts.
Even though this site is only available to members you should consider any information in your profile as potentially public. Only post pictures and information you'd be happy sharing with a group of people at a party. Never post personal contact details on your profile or anything that could be used to steal your identity.
Be wary of anyone contacting you and ends up asking you for money to help them or to pay for a trip to see you. Unfortunately there are some devious people out there who play with your emotions. It might be hard if you feel you have formed a connection with them but we advise never to give any money to someone asking for it. Thankfully it doesn't happen that often but when it does it's usually a scam.
If you agree to meet someone arrange to talk to them on the phone first or even better over skype. Make sure the person is who they say they are. Arrange to meet somewhere public and where you feel comfortable. You may want to have a friend ring you half way through the date to check up on you. If it's not going well you can always use it as your excuse to leave.
If you are chatting to someone and it feels natural to meet but they suddenly change character or have a lot of reasons why they can't meet then it might be time to leave them be. Some people use dating sites as an escape or to live out a fantasy. That's ok if they are open and honest about it but watch out for people who are flat out lying.
Remember, you are always in control of your data. If you feel someone is pressuring you to send them something or wanting something from you. Politely say no and if they persist then report them to our quality team. The anonymity of the internet can make some people behave in an appropriate way. We don't want their behavior affecting your experience.